Category Archives: Randomness

Ramblings, funny stuff, and general musings.

Men Masturbated For Science, And Here’s What Came Of It


New study uses porn to spotlight changes in sperm quality, quantity.

By David Freeman

They say variety is the spice of life, and provocative new research by scientists in Ohio suggests that that holds true in the world of human sex and reproduction.

With the help of 21 men and some porn videos, The College of Wooster researchers showed that guys ejaculate faster and produce more, higher-quality sperm when they masturbate to a “novel female stimulus.”

In other words, they really get off with a hot woman they’ve never previously encountered. Continue reading

Vice Magazine: I Grew Up In A Polyamorous Household


By Benedict Smith

Few cultural symbols have as much heft as the “traditional” nuclear family. You know the one: two heterosexual parents, two kids, one dog, two tablespoons of white picket fence, whisk gently. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with that—it’s just not how I was raised.

My parents are polyamorous, a Greek/Latin mishmash word meaning romantic non-monogamy with the consent of everyone involved. As a kid, I lived with my dad, my mom, my mom’s partner, and for a while, my mom’s partner’s partner. Mom might have up to four partners at a time. Dad had partners too. I was raised by an interconnected network of grownups whose relationships weren’t exclusive but remained committed for years, even decades.

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Stuck Until Death Do You Part?


By Ian Denchasy

In one of our many discussions recently, a dear friend explained that she had an epiphany and that, “No matter what, love is the answer,” period, to staying married to her husband of almost 20 years. And while I agree wholeheartedly that love should be a vital component of a successful marriage, it was what she said next that startled me, and I quote, “I mean, no matter what happens from here on we’re committed to seeing our marriage through and have accepted that were stuck together for life.”

Even her 16 year old daughter, who was sitting nearby, paused to look up from her smartphone at that zinger, shooting a glance over my direction to see if my reaction would match her obvious befuddlement. Continue reading

A Different Perspective On Tantra


By Layla Martins

There are a lot of Tantra and sexuality teachers out there teaching strict rules about sex…

– Woman: Don’t you dare have a clitoral orgasm! It’s so immature, and you’ll become grumpy and disconnected

– Man: Don’t ejaculate or you’ll end up energetically depleted

– Both of you: Don’t even bother to orgasm at all, you’ll have a dopamine crash and end up personally destroyed

I think rules like these are like “fad-diets” – they sound sexy and like they’ll work. And you might even get some quick results, until you crash and it probably isn’t even all that healthy to begin with.

A lot of these teachers become notorious and get a lot of attention, just like “fad-diet” gurus.

People love rules – they give a certain comfort – they make you feel like you’re really getting somewhere.

Just as we’ve battled with our addictions and use of food, we’ve been battling our addictions and use of sex.

The answer isn’t crazy control, it’s balance, and the simple choices day in and day out.

When it comes to sex, it’s just like diet. Eat real food. Not too much. Mostly Plants.

When it comes to sex….Make real Love. Relax and Be Present. Breathe deeply and follow your Impulses.

I think a lot of “spiritual teachings” actually end up setting us on a path for war with ourselves.

Kill your ego. Stop desiring so much. Let go. Surrender. Either be celibate, or at least stop ejaculating or orgasming so much.

For God’s Sake: WHY?

Do you really think the creator set you up so that all of your natural impulses are the path to destruction?

Where does going to war with your humanity make you more real, more present, more alive?

Because if it isn’t real and present and alive, then it isn’t spiritual.

Same goes for sex.

If you find yourself controlling, battling and restricting your sexuality, it’s just sending you down another rabbit hole.

I believe the only true redemption comes first and foremost from being fully in love with and fully at peace with our humanity – and a huge part of humanity is sexuality.

Anything that isn’t arising from that kind of deeply self-loving foundation is a masked escape.

Escape from where?

The present, of course.

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French Uptight Over 24-Foot Parisian Butt Plug

Apparently, this “sculpture” is called Tree. Um, we have to agree that it’s not. 🙂


In Place Vendome, one of Paris’s beautiful historic squares, next to a 19th-century column commemorating Napoleon’s glory in the Battle of Austerlitz, sits a 24-foot inflatable butt plug. Despite the city’s reputation as haven for cosmopolitan artsy types, some Parisians aren’t having it.

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Couple Enjoys Regular Threesomes With Sex Dolls, And It Only Cost $32,000

Ok, so here’s one innovative way to get that threesome you’ve always been coveting…

Shawna Bigelow is only a little jealous of the numerous sex dolls her boyfriend keeps in the basement.

Most of the time, though, she and Dave Hockey enjoy an ongoing sexual relationship with the dolls, which they spent more than $32,000 on, according to iTV. Their freaky extracurriculars involve little to no attachment (unless Bigelow decides to use a different attachable penis for her male doll, named Terry). Continue reading

The Secret Life of Women: How Men Can Finally Understand Female Emotions

We’re huge fans of the content at The Good Men Project, with this posting on female versus male emotional responses pretty spot on.


I was talking with my friend and colleague, John, about my relationship, and its challenges. I smiled and said, “Women’s emotional reactions have baffled men forever.”

With his typical wise and cosmic perspective, he smiled, and asked, “Would you like to understand feminine emotion?”

What? Someone who actually understands women’s emotions? And can explain them? I said. “Lay it on me, Bro!”

A few minutes into his discourse, I stopped him to get a tape recorder. I knew I had to share this information with other men. We really need to learn about this major difference between men and women. It will save us SO much trouble. If it enlightens you, please share it with all the men you know.

To continue reading this article, click here to visit The Good Men Project.


What Is Love

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By Chloe Thurlow

What is love? Poets have been trying to answer the question since the snake slithered through Eden and it is far easier to work out what love isn’t than what it is. You may enjoy stuffed red peppers. But you don’t love them. You may adore your little black dress. But you are not going to go to bed with your dress – in your dress, maybe; and shoes could be the exception that proves the rule. You can admire many people and be infatuated by some without loving them. You may love your parents and siblings, but you are not in love with them.

To continue reading the full article on Chloe Thurlow’s fabulous blog, please click this link…