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My Husband and I Have An Open Marriage…


By Jenny Block

I was 17 when my sexual education began.

“You are responsible for your own orgasm,” my boyfriend told me. He was the guy I lost my virginity to, the guy I had my first orgasm with, and the guy whose words would one day become my mantra: I am responsible for my own orgasm. I believe that literally and figuratively. In bed, I play an active role in getting what I want. But I also take charge of getting what I want throughout my sexual life.

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Trust – In Sex It Really IS Everything

Want the best sex with your partner? Work on underlying trust to pave the way to mind-blowing intimacy.


For truly mind-blowing sex, nothing beats trust to get there.

Chemistry and physical attraction aside, what’s the most important factor in keeping your sex life exciting over the long term? For us it’s been long term trust, which has been built upon unflinching honesty over many years – especially when it comes to intimacy. Trust translates into open communication, allowing us to explore sexual subjects (and acts), their consequences, and delve into desires that might be taboo without emotional damage. It’s not always pretty, but building a trusting relationship early on has rewarded us with not only a stable, happy marriage over many years, but a treasure trove of sensual experiences as well.

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47 Sexual Fetishes from A-Z


The following is a list of paraphilias, or sources of sexual arousal, discussed in “Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us” [Scientific American / Farrar, Straus and Giroux, by Jesse Bering.

Arousal to amputees

Arousal to the sun’s rays

Arousal to statues

Arousal to a person of extreme stature, either giant or dwarf

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Don’t wait to be horny to have sex. Instead, have sex to get horny!

Don’t Wait for Desire: Reverse the Equation

Don’t wait to be horny to have sex. Instead, have sex to get horny!
Published on April 29, 2013 by Laurie B. Mintz, Ph.D. in Stress and Sex

There is one piece of advice, steeped in scientific evidence, which has the potential to improve countless sex lives. This advice is most relevant for women in long-term committed relationships. The advice:

If you wait until you feel horny to have sex, you may never have sex again! So, don’t wait to feel horny to engage in a sexual encounter. Instead, put it on your schedule and allow the sexual encounter itself to get you horny.

This advice goes against everything we are taught. We are taught that the sexual response cycle is linear, starting with sexual desire. These feelings of desire cause us to seek out sex. The sex gets us aroused. If we are lucky, we have an orgasm. We then undergo a resolution or rest phase. In other words, the cycle is one of desire, arousal, orgasm, resolution. Rinse, lather and repeat.

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Product Review: Gear Essentials Titan Cock Ring

Synopsis: A metal ring worn to enhance erection and visual appeal of the male genitalia.

Freddy’s Review: Ever since I first tried the Mr. Whiskers Stretch Pleasure Rings, I’ve been completely sold on wearing a cock ring, utilizing different ones often (about a third of the time, by my estimation). Not only do they help maintain a hard erection by preventing the escape of blood from the penis during prolonged love making, but they feel and look sexy as well. Very few things turn Eddy on sexually as much as the site of my clean shaven “love zone” neatly complimented by a ring. It just works for her. Indeed, I’m not afraid to admit that I find it attractive myself and a little self admiration in front of the mirror just prior to sexual activity can do wonders for the psyche!

All of this led up to our annual pilgrimage to the Adult Video News show, where we hunted – vulture like – for interesting and cool items to review and post on this website (yes, it’s a tough job, but SOMEONE has to do it). Tucked well in the back of the main hall was a small booth, comprised of nothing more than a table covered with a black cloth, showing off a collection of gorgeous metal rings. And, though we knew their purpose immediately, we had never considered wearing something like this due to a perception problem on our part that they could be dangerous (when in fact they are actually safer than the silicone rings). The company, Gear Essentials, is actually an off shoot of a metal fabrication company which manufactures Braille (no, really!) and saw an opportunity to introduce extremely high quality standards to the adult market, specifically to the gay sector. Company co-founder Mike Murphy, who along with founder Dwight, explained to us that it’s quite common for gay men to wear cock rings as they would any other piece of jewelry and he wished to introduce this practice to the heterosexual market. When he offered one of the rings to us, we just couldn’t resist.

The first thing we had to do was measure for a proper fit, which is done by taking a strip of paper a quarter inch wide and wrapping it from the base of the shaft (where it connects to your body), down behind the balls (under your scrotum) and back up again so that the paper meets. You then measure the length of the paper and divide by three, giving you the proper diameter. In my case, a quick trip to the men’s lounge confirmed the least large model would suffice (as it will for MOST men, thank you!). The only other choice was the finish, available in a shiny mirror or brushed metal, the latter of which was my choice. Anxiously, I ran back to the lounge to put it on, assured by Mr. Murphy that it could be worn comfortably for hours without a problem.

To put it on, it is necessary to be flaccid and you first tuck each testicle through the ring (one at a time), then push the head of the penis through the top, as if you’re threading a needle. Holding the head with one hand, you then pull the ring back toward you until it is against your body, where it should feel comfortable and secure. Make sure that your testicles are comfortably in front of the ring and make minor adjustments until the ring feels as natural as possible. For me, it was no problem and I was “ringed” in no time. To see a slide show of how to put on a metal cock ring properly, click here.

To say I felt sexy wearing the Titan must be comparable to how a woman feels wearing sexy underwear (or maybe even a nipple or clit piercing?). No one other than myself knew it was there, but the mere fact that I knew was, well, really COOL. Eddy didn’t know I had put it on until things heated up after the show back in our hotel room, and she loved the way it looked as she brought things to attention in no time. Function-wise, it worked just like the Mega Stretch EXCEPT without the constant squeezing; wrap a rubber band tightly around your finger and compare the results to wearing a wedding ring and you’ll see what I mean. Even after sex, I didn’t want to take it off, though when I did it was effortless to do so. Cleaning is as simple as soap and water and the stainless steel will retain its beauty for several lifetimes.

In conclusion, this is a GREAT product. Gear makes five other styles, which get progressively heavier and wider, which should address most personal tastes. All of their rings also come in three different sizes to accommodate virtually any size man. I’ve never been one for wearing jewelry (I don’t even wear a watch), but this is one hunk of metal that now adorns my body often and with pleasure!

If you’re interested in purchasing a Gear product, Click here or on links above to learn more. To view a slide show of how to put one on, click here.

Sex Positions 101: The Eiffel Tower

Type of sex position: Woman on top.
Degree of difficulty: Intermediate.

Use this innovative sex position to put the squeeze on his love tool while using his legs for added support.

For this sex position, the male lays back with his legs together, with the female on top, straddling both of his legs. By opening and closing her thighs, the female can add variety to the different sensations.


Infographics: Sex In America – Myths and Facts

Myths and Facts About Sex in America Infographic

From Infographics Showcase.


I’m wary about infographics about sex.  For one, people really do read them, so if the information isn’t accurate, people get misled.  For another, often times the information isn’t accurate.  I’m not saying this is the case with THIS infographic.  I’m just saying it happens.  And digressing…

Myths vs. Facts

I’m just going to go over the facts in this section – they are very easy to read on the infographic itself, but I’m going to word it in a different way.  So, here’s the rundown:

-people pretty much everywhere in American have the same amount of sex, which counters the theory that people in big cities do it more.
-not as many American teenagers are having sex as you would think.
-there may be more gay women in America than gay men.
-European kids don’t necessarily have more sex than American kids, they are just safer about it.
-women are more proactive about contraception than the myth leads us to believe.
-men are pretty serious about birth control.
-men care more about their partner’s pleasure than the stereotype indicates
-American internet use is 50% devoted to sex in one way or another.  So much for saying Americans aren’t sexually adventurous.
-Americans are pickier about their sexual partners than the rest of the world thinks they are.
-Only 75% of American men are interested in having a threesome, instead of the 100% that is assumed.
-The average sexual encounter lasts 5-10 minutes.  Hardly any guy can go all night long.
-American men cheat on their wives mainly because they don’t feel like their wives care, not because they think they have the right to cheat (um?)
-America is more uptight about infidelity than other countries.  (um?)
-Americans have almost as much sex as French people, who have the most amount of sex.

Wrap Up

Assuming all this is true, you have now learned something.  If something strikes you as way out of left field, use the resources at the bottom to look it up.  I think some of the information is subjective, based on subjective data and polls, which aren’t scientific enough for me.