Viagra commercials notwithstanding, are couples in their 50’s still having sex and, indeed, still sexy? I’d love to take the advertising route and paint a picture of hot and horny passion, still-optimal sexual function downstairs, and a wife heating up my libido like in our dating days; however, the truth may dismally disappoint. Sorry, dear readers, but sex in our 50’s is nothing like it was 30, 20, or even 10 years ago. Menopause, erectile dysfunction, stress, raising a kid, and financial issues have all conspired to turn our marriage from hot, to… Continue reading →
Living post-40’s life to its fullest at Burning Man 2007.
Sexual passion in long term relationships can be difficult enough to sustain. We’ve been together over a quarter century and have certainly experienced a range of issues over this long period, chief among them the simple fact that we’ve aged into midlife along the way. Our 3-4 times sex per day dating days have given way to a more modest 1-3 times per week as we approach our 50 year birthdays, respectively, and try as we might neither of us is immune to financial pressures, fatigue, or general malaise from time to time. Still, there’s no lack of intimacy in our everyday relationship as we continue to treasure each other’s company, touch, and all that comes with such a deep commitment, even if it does take a bit more effort. Sex for us is a process, and whether or not it leads to intercourse we find passion in the moment, regardless of our age, physical condition, or financial situation. Getting older, though, does present its own set of challenges and here are some helpful pointers to keep things steamy – or at least foggy – in the bedroom into your mature years.